A Meal time!

One of the difficult times for parents is to get a two year old child to get to sit in one place and feed himself or herself. Most parents resort to make them watch TV or mobile phone while been forced to eat. They eat with no awareness of the texture, flavour, odour and consistency of food. They eat unaware of the movements of lips, tongue, throat and all the movements associated with swallowing. Eating becomes a passive activity just as watching the TV.

A better way to get a toddler to start into a good way of eating food is by helping a child to be at the family table form about a year when a child is able to sit unsupported. It is the sight, colour, flavour and the seeing others eat which forms the first impression for. toddler to want to taste all that are served on the table. All children seek for food when they are hungry. Reserve offering food while at table along with others. Even when a snack has to be offered it is best done with a child sitting on a high chair at the dining table. The high chair, table, meal time rituals and patience to introduce food to a child would make a child want to be at the table to share a meal. There might be exceptions with soem children on account of tier special situations developmentally.

The habit of having the family meal with TV or audio on ought to be replaced with conversations which children can enjoy. Often what children are happy to hear are about things that happen in and around the house. I am of the opinion that conversation pertaining to the adult's world ought to take place elsewhere and not at the family table. Some parents woeful even read s tory at the end of a meal to close the family meal with good thoughts fo ra child to stay with. 

The food fads which children develop are directly relational to the proclamations that adult make about the food he or she likes or avoids. The conversation about the taste of rtes food or anything physical about the food is a bad introduction or example to children. It is not just the taste which determines the quality of food; so why talk about taste and complain about what is less or more in the cooked food, which is an ungraceful way of making the one who cooked food feel disappointed or hurt. 

Children observe and pick up habits adults practice. A table is apace to honour each other and not to criticise anyone or make others as the agenda of conversation. 

A child told me that he does not like ice cream because his father did not eat ice cream. Le tis remember that meal times are habit forming; meal time conversations influence the thought process of children; and meal time can be an endearing time between members of the family. 

Food times are relational times and are most formative for children in the early years of their lives. 

Let su make it that way.

The Sunbird in the photos above find nectar! Children too would come to the table to find their food, if the memory of the meal times is refreshing and enjoyable!

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)