The visibility of the road ends as it turns. The visible sights are fascinating to look at.
I have come across two groups of parents. The first, who make the childhood experiences of their children at home, pleasant and refreshing. The other group thinks a lot about the unknown future of their children and are engaged in planning, that they are less active to stay fully involved with their growing up children.
A child is now present with us, whom we can influence to give him insights and readiness to choose wisely, before he or she moves out of the orbit of our homes. What he or she inherits from our intimate involvement during the early years of their formations would be the ground, on which he or she stands to choose the pathway in future.
The 'now' of the child development practices is what parents can focus on. What is ideal is to look for every opportunity to be proactively involved with a child till he or she reaches the teen age years. Parents will get sometimes marginalised from the active role of parents, once a child is a teenager. Even this would not happen, if the earlier years have been intimate with the children where 'friendship' was the ambience of relationship.
Befriending a child starts from the toddler years of a child. It is good for parents to keep this as their ambition: let our children find us a their first line of contact for all conversations. This calls for creating openness and comfort for conversations. Do children see us as their well wishers or as those who are nagging to correct them to conform!
The letting go in child development begins here. We can create the environment for the child to grow up loved and feel wanted. When that happens the response of the children would be wanting to reciprocate.
The parenting role before the teenage years is to bathe a child in the language of love, affirmation and belonging! Then a child follows the good practices of the home!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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